Mr Patrick Obahiagbon’s Mistake on Twitter

Mr Patrick(The 'Big English' house of rep guy) made the mistake of calling a match ‘matched’ and some of his followers descended on him, especially one Daodu Adebayo.
Mr Patrick’s Tweet;

The Fan;

See Patrick’s reply to him below;

HOT OR NOT -Chika Ike covers the February edition of the House of Maliq Magazine

Nollywood actress, Chika Ike covers the February edition of the House of Maliq Magazine in style, showing why she’s one of the most sought after female actresses in Nollywood.

Must Read For Guys -by MNGT

Once There Was A Man Who Was VERY Attracted To A Great Woman...

At first, she was just another attractive woman... but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her... and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her.

But there was one problem...

As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.

 Why? Because he couldn't tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him.

Sometimes, she would say things like, "You are so important to me" and "I'm glad that you're in my life"... but nothing ever progressed past the "friendship" stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her... and once, she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.

What's WRONG With This Picture?

You see, she just wasn't acting like a woman that was falling in love. She was acting like (cue the tragic music... ) just a friend.

And then the insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself... and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of "screwing things up" by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.

Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that, if she only knew how he FELT, she would feel the same way. So, he made a bold move:

He told her how he felt and confessed that he was in love and that he would do anything to be with her.

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said, "Thank you... I really mean that... but I don't want to mess up our friendship... you're too important to me...."

All Of This Only Confused The Man More

He didn't know how to take it... Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something? Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long term relationship? Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint?

Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough? Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?

He finally decided that he couldn't go on like this anymore... he had to be with her. He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her... so, he took a big step...

He bought her a symbolic gift and wrote her a long, long letter... again confessing his feelings.

And then, the unthinkable happened...

She Didn't Reply At All!

He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her.

She made an excuse about being very busy and said, "I'll try to give you a call soon, I have to go"... and hung up... but he never got a call back.

Over the following months the man tried desperately to understand what went wrong... and what happened.

THE END

Now, wasn't that a sweet story? Heartwarming, huh? I know, I should keep my day job,read my books,blog a bit,play ball :D and not take up writing romance novels... Now, let's talk about this story.

This Story Is An Actual, Real-Life LEGEND

I'm not talking about a myth or a work of fiction here... I'm talking about a story that rings true for a great majority of men. A story that is timeless and incredibly familiar. A story that resonates at a deep level because you can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate and sound so familiar for most men?

It's because we've all been there in one way or another... at one time or another... and many of us have been there often in our lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs... as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it reminds us of...

Stories and situations like this one really fascinate me. They fascinate me because I see them as an opportunity to understand and solve the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation, I think there is a solution. And it lies in understanding one thing:

The Huge Secret That Women Know (But 99% Of Men Don't)

This secret comes down to the reality that if a woman isn't attracted to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her backfire.

In other words, they not only don't work, they actually make things WORSE. The very things that a man does to try to make a woman like him, make her NOT like him. They make her run for the hills.

All those great intentions and emotional dedication actually cause the man feeling them to do things that make her go away. It sucks, and I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens, I'll help you to avoid this painful situation in the future...

By the way, if you read that story and said to yourself, "That's happened to me," then you might want to go and soak garri and READ ON

In the meantime, let me tell you about a little something that I love opening guys' eyes about...

Introducing The "INSTANT EWWW"...

Look, I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others... So often we think that just because we want to communicate a message, that others are going to naturally understand what we're trying to say.

For example, have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car that has wheels on it that cost more than the car itself... with his stereo blasting... and a muffler that somehow amplifies the raw sound of the 4-cylinder motor?

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I don't think that car is communicating the message to women that he thinks it is"? Yeah, I have too. And here's the deal:

If you do something to "let a woman know how you feel"... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it is going to backfire. GUARANTEED.

It's going to trigger a feeling that I like to call the "Instant Ewww"... and it's just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of attraction. Once a woman feels it, you're done. It's over. It's like hammering a railroad spike into the coffin.

Once a woman feels the "Instant Ewww," she will start behaving differently. In short, she'll disappear.

Still have doubts? Wondering where I learned the concept of the "Instant Ewww" from?

I Learned Everything I Know About This Concept From WOMEN

I have actually heard several women use the word "Ewww" when describing how they felt about a guy that was confessing his love... Of course, these were guys that weren't loved in return.

So, what causes the "Instant Ewww?" And why would a woman feel it towards a man who was trying to be nice... a guy who was giving her a gift or telling her how he feels?

Because if you think about it from her perspective, you'll realize that the moment you do something to "confess," you have created a turning point in the relationship. Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, women always know how men feel. She already knew you wanted her. She knew it from the beginning. But now that you've started pursuing her and talking about how you feel, you've created a negative tension that is very uncomfortable.

You've triggered an emotion that is repulsive to women. And it does repel them.

In summary...

• You can't "make a woman like you" or "change how she feels about you" by doing nice things for her.
• Doing "nice" things for a woman who isn't attracted to you hurts you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the "Instant Ewww" feeling that makes it so she'll never like you.
• Men make this mistake over and over again in life because they're doing what makes sense to them. They're doing it because they don't have an understanding of ATTRACTION.

Now, on to the GOOD news...

Two Life-Changing Solutions To These Painfully Common Problems

Solution #1: If you're in a situation where you like a particular girl, but you don't know if she likes you back... Don't buy her a big gift and write a love letter... Don't send her ten dozen roses to her work with a note that says, "From your secret admirer." Don't call her three times a day.

And above all... DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her!

If you want to know how she feels about you, kiss her (The Kiss Test). As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than her. Use signals from her to find out how she feels... and if you don't know how to read and create those signals, then LEARN.

Asking a woman if she's interested in you in a romantic way or if you are "her type," will actually destroy the chances that she'll like you. Really.

Solution #2: Don't get into this particular situation in the first place. Avoid it entirely.

One does that by creating attraction from the beginning. One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why women have the physical and emotional response of attraction triggered. One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

The Very Best Way To Learn These Skills

You don't have to be rich, handsome, or young. And you don't have to be lucky.

What you DO have to do is LEARN. It's a skill, and I honestly believe that any man can learn it if he wants to. But you're not likely to figure it out by "trial and error" because many of the keys to making women feel attraction aren't obvious at all.

In fact, many of them make no sense... and they're the LAST thing you'd do in a particular situation if you didn't know the secrets.

                                                                                                                                              

Much Ado About Febuary the 14th - Caleb Olorunmaiye

Vals day is 2 weeks away. I'm sure you got the memo. If you didn't then its either you live in a vacuum or you are not smart enough. I suspect the latter. Because how else do you want to explain the extra attention you've been getting from the girl next door, the girl who sits behind you in class and even the girl you buy recharge card from who smiles way too much at you lately. Pfft! Come off it, you really didn't think you suddenly developed super powers and became all sorts of smoking HOT overnight did you?
So its going through the motions all over again this year. There's the usual dilemma. What to buy for the girlfriend? Who actually deserves spending Val with, the girlfriend or the side chick? And while Cynthia has been waiting all week for her crush at work to ask her to be his val, she's been turning down offers from every Ekene, Ali and Akpos.

Which makes you wonder when girls are ever going to come off the stereotype and ask a guy out for once. not to be a boyfriend or anything like that, but to a dinner, a movie, a couple of drinks, a concert. It doesn't make you 'cheap' it only says 'I'm available, and I'm daring'.

So anyways, expectations are going to be high, you know especially for the ladies who would be spending their fast Valentine with their man. But while they keep expectations high on what their man is going to do for them, they largely end up disappointing in what they do for their man. So my advice to the men, while you've got that table for two at that expensive restaurant reserved together with the violin playing quartet, do not, I repeat do not unveil your plans for the nights before she does presents you with whatever she's got. So that if it turns out to be boxers and singlets as is the tradition, well, just run to the nearby store and get her a bar soap and vaseline. Yes, vaseline!

Its amazing when people really fall short of what gifts to buy their partner. Everytime I'm asked by some chic who has zoned me, on what to buy her boyfriend for his birthday or Val's day, I get to appreciate that I was zoned. Makes me think they weren't even worth it. I mean, do you even really know this person? Gifts should be bought in line with the persons interests and hobbies. Do not buy me an expensive wristwatch when you pretty much know in our 8 months of dating that I don't fancy them, when you could have just bought me a paperback collection of John Grisham's whom I absolutely adore.

If you know your girlfriend is crazy about dance, download the best dance movies there are, compile in a CD and present it to her along with the usuals of perfumes, and assorted biscuits, but trust me that CD is what would really get to her. If your boyfriend is a soccer maniac, ok since he already has a Manchester United jersey, why not get one for yourself, as well as a soccerball, hit the photostudio, take a picture wearing just the jersey and panties, in a sexy pose with the soccerball. Frame the picture and wrap with other items, even the traditional boxers and singlet and see if he won't kiss your feet.

Gifting, when not philantrophic should be creative. So get to your creative best when sorting out what to gift your partner this season.

For many couples who have spent a couple of Vals day together, maybe there's nothing really exciting to look forward to this year. The only thing that has probaly kept the relationship together over the last few months is that he doesn't cheat, you don't nag, he is quick to apologise, and the you don't say no when he asks you to blow him. But in terms of direction, yall are really heading nowhere. So guys, don't beat yourself too much pondering what to get her. She won't appreciate it. She'll smile and hug you and tell you you are a darling, but on the inside, she's all gon be 'here we go again'. So what should you really do, go and see her parents, and propose right in her fathers sitting room.

Single ladies, do not pretend Val's day has no meaning to you. If you are spending Val's day alone, do not hate on others who are caught up in the moment. Spoil yourself. Take yourself out, go see a movie, buy yourself a box of chocolates, and don't share them. Get yourself that dress you've being eyeing in the store, but don't be mailing gifts to yourself and making everyone believe your boyfriend in the UK sent them, that's really low!

What Do You Want to Become When You Grow Up? - Mudasiru Ayoola

I think I got then idea for this write-up from the movie twilight, I won't bore you with how and what part...

When we were childen and we were asked what we wanted to become when we grew up, we all had answers like Doctors, Presidents, Politician, Scientists, Actors, Astrounauts, etc. We didn't think that most of these were unattainable... We just all had the notion that we were going to be great...

 When we were a little grown up, we were asked once again, what do you want to become when you grow up? And alas, our answers had been edited... We now understood a little bit that some things were no longer logical... We now gave answers like Lawyers, Engineers, Doctors, Architects, etc.

 But alas, if you ask us now what we want to be, we sincerely don't really know... We may be in the university, but majority of us have little or no idea what we actually want to be... We have realized that life isn't what we thought it to be...

My solution to this, even though its probably laughable  in Nigeria, is to let us travel, make mistakes, get lost and find our way back, do drug (hehe, kidding o), get arrested; so by the end of  it all we should have known what we want to do with the rest of our lives, and even if we don't, we'll be ready to settle down to figure it out....

FUNNY DIARY OF NEW IYAWO

Monday: We are back from honeymoon and settled in our new home. It's fun to cook for Chuka . Today I made moin moin and the recipe said, 'Beat 12 eggs separately '. Well, I didn't have enough bowls to do that, so I had to borrow 12 bowls to beat the eggs in. D moin moin turned out fine though.

Tuesday: We wanted a fruit salad for supper. The recipe said, 'Serve without dressing'. So I didn't dress. But Chuka happened to bring a friend home for supper that night. They both looked so startled when I served them. I think it was the salad.

Wednesday: I decided to serve rice and found a recipe, which said, 'Wash thoroughly before steaming d rice'. So I heated some water and took a bath before steaming the rice. Sounded kind of silly in the middle of the day. I can't say it improved d rice anyhow.

Thursday: Today Chuka asked for salad again. I tried a new recipe. It said, prepare ingredients, and then toss on a bed of lettuce one hour before serving.' I hunted all over the place for a garden with a bed of lettuce and when I got one, I tossed my salad into the bed of lettuce and stood over there for over one hour so the dog would not take it. CHUKA came over and asked if I felt all right. I wonder why? He must be stressed at work; I'll try and be supportive.

Friday: Today I found an easy recipe for cookies. It said, 'Put all ingredients in a bowl and beat it'. Beat it I did, to my mother's place. There must have been something wrong with the recipe, because when I came back home again; it looked the same as when I left it.

Saturday: Chuka went shoppin today and brought home a chicken. He asked me to dress it for Sunday. I'm sure I don't know how hens dress for Sunday. I never noticed back on the farm, but I found an old doll dress and its little cute shoes. I thought the hen looked really cute. When Chuka saw it, he started counting to ten. Either he was really stressed because of his work, or he wanted the chicken to dance. When I asked him what was wrong he started crying and shouting out 'Why me? Why me?'

DID YOU KNOW?? -By Eno Abasiakan

DID YOU KNOW???

Do you know that disorganisation can block your creativity? You didn't? Well neither did i until i read it somewhere,it made me think though. Could it be the reason why a lot of so called writers and artiste have writer's block or as a family friend of mine would call it 'writers brick' or could it be that the reason they couldn't do something efficiently was because they're disorganised? I know this may seem to be an obvious answer for a wedding planner or host to a show and even a business man. I mean duh.

'Bob you didn't do so well because you didn't plan well, everything wasn't organised properly'.
 Yup,that definitely makes sense to them but i'm not talking about them in particular, well i'll be making references but this has to do more with writers and artiste or 'The Thinkers' as I like to call them.

I agree with that statement. (Yes I said I agree)

Disorganisation can indeed block your creativity. If you don't believe me that's ok, you don't have to, everyone is entitled to their own opinion but i will still explain why anyhow.
Disorganisation causes confusion, lack of concentration and...and... unfortunately I can't remember more effects.

Wait a minute...... see what I mean.

Disorganisation in its own weird way affects your thought processes. How?? Well for instance instead of you concentrating on the work at hand, you're thinking of how to do about 30 different things at the same time. Like my mom always says 'start one thing at a time and always finish what you started' (easier said than done sometimes). That way you don't have to jump from one thing to another and cause yourself unnecessary stress. For example if you have my kind of dad who isn't very patient for food when he is hungry and you have to make him breakfast of fried potatoes, eggs with stew, you'll definitely have to follow a process.
Of course you should know you'll have to peel and cut the potatoes, fry the eggs and warm or cook the stew (although in my house it's usually to warm 'cus there's always stew).

This needs a lot of organisation and planning.
You can't peel the potatoes first neglecting the stew and eggs and you can't fry the eggs first neglecting the the potatoes and stew because it'll get cold and you can't warm fried eggs. What are you, Dumb??
 So you'll have to start with the stew. Why?? because it can be warmed if it gets cold!! and if it is frozen it'll have enough time to defrost by the time you're done peeling and maybe frying the potatoes. And of course the eggs would be fried last. Now if you don't follow this careful process you'll end up burning something if not everything because you'll be running from one thing to another and take more time than you should have used up, trust me I know i learnt the hard way.
Forgive my seemingly inappropriate example I'm female, a future house wife and mother someday, this just seemed appropriate for me (I'm not a glutton either).
Right. Back to the main topic of discussion with reference to my elaborate example, because you're disorganised and running from pillar to post and various things are running through your head, your creativity level drops because you can't fix your mind on one thing to actually create something. I mean a writer for instance who is about to write a book or something has to get everything needed to enable him/her not to write off point. If its a novel that has various characters, you'll have to know what and who your characters are before writing about them or else you'll get stuck at some point and probably forget the main aim and purpose of the book or end up writing a meaningless story. Even Macbeth and Hamlet with all their confusing languages and mannerisms were well planned out before writing.
I know i'm supposed to give reasons why you should be organised and try to explain why it'll help but i'm not. People differ and you never know, disorganisation might work for some and then at some point in their lives they'll figure out things could've been alot easier if they were organised. You think about maybe you can stop always being confused or stop having those nasty headaches if you could organise yourself and even your thoughts and take them things you do one at a time letting room for more creativity.

                                                                 @Mis_iE

THE RUDE AWAKENING by Simisola Yusuf

                “You are No Cinderella” That statement echoed over and over again in my head. I and my boyfriend had a very heated argument and all I could remember was this! It threw me aback and even now a week after I can’t seem to get it out of my mind.

                I have been a sucker for love stories for as long as I can remember. I believe I have an Adam from whose rib I was created, a prince charming who would hold on to my shoe until he finds me, I was so engrossed in fairy-tales that making my life one became my sole ambition. Unconsciously, I had resolved that “living happily ever after” meant success. Only for him to imply that I am not worthy of that success! Yes that’s exactly what that means. But as I sat in my room in rage it hit me, I had been setting ridiculous standards that even I didn’t match up to. I was so concerned about him doing all the right things that I didn’t stop for a moment to check if I was deserving of them.

                I wanted an Edward whereas I wasn’t ready to sacrifice my humanity for “love”, I wanted a Troy whereas I was a sharpay, I wanted a jack who would give up his life just so I can live whereas I would never date someone below my social class, I wanted a Prince charming whereas unlike Cinderella I would’ve shot my step mother and gone to jail rather than act like a fool humbly serving her in my father’s house, I wanted a Noah whereas I would never give up financial security like Ally to continue a summer romance.

                He was right; I was a selfish girl desiring a selfless lover, asking him to do things which I could never do for anyone. And just then a light bulb lit in  my head, and this scripture came to mind Proverbs 18:24a “A man that hath friends must show himself friendly” If I want a prince charming I must focus on making myself into a Cinderella and he will come. Because our attitudes and character determine the type of people we attract and also the side of people we pull out. Reality had just set in.